Thursday, September 15, 2016

My Last Fete in Cameroon

This post is mostly pictures since I really wanted to share the past few days of the Fete du Mouton (also called Tabaski). A few days before the fete (holiday/party) we had a henna party at my house where a couple of other Peace Corps volunteers, 6 of my neighbors, and myself had henna done on our hands and feet. It is a cultural tradition and just a fun thing to do for fetes here. Usually only the women have it done but we had a few men ask if they could get their hands done too so not sure on the verdict there. We started at 9:30am and finished around 5:30pm; the woman drew henna for all 9 of us! It felt like getting ready for prom or a wedding. We played cards, did puzzles, and just hung out together all day. I really enjoyed being around my neighbors. We don’t usually have much to talk about so it was nice to be around them but still have games to play and watch the woman draw the henna. Also henna takes a little while to dry so it’s not like you can do more than sit there anyway. I was surprised the children were patient and didn’t move while the intricate black flowers dried on their feet. My neighbors also put brown henna on the bottoms of their feet and tips of their fingers. It is another cultural tradition for Muslim women. Most of my neighbors had their hair braided for the fete too. It is not normal for a woman to have her hair natural or not braided here- One girl's hair was undone and sticking straight out as she was waiting to have it braided. We thought "so beautiful right?" Nope. All the other girls were laughing at her.
Guyia getting henna done on her feet and Fatimatu sitting still after getting brown henna done on her feet (that is why her feet are covered with plastic bags-it is how they dry the brown henna)

Playing Go Fish


Fatimatu does not look happy about having to wait for her henna to dry (see the brown henna on the bottom of her feet)

Typical wedding photo of the feet but for henna!


On the day of the fete we watched the community prayer in Beka-Hosséré and then went to Issa’s house for a feast. Each family kills and eats a sheep so we were given some interesting parts to eat. My neighbors gave us the ribs and some very well cooked pieces of liver. We also took a lot of pictures. I felt like it was my wedding, especially when Issa was fixing my skirt for the picture. In village and in the city, people were happy to see me wearing the henna along with the traditional dress and head-wrap. I’m glad that after 2 years, maybe I still get called white man but at least people acknowledge my efforts to learn about their culture. I will always be an outsider but I will always be Beka-Hosséré’s outsider.
Issa fixing my dress (just like a wedding picture, right!?)

Guyia and her sheep that will be the feast later that day

Me & the youngest, Oumal Heidi
Me & Fatimatu (after 2 years, she finally let me pick her up!)

Me & my wonderful neighbors

Plus the newest education Peace Corps volunteer in my village, Alex!

The day after the fete, we went to the fantasia at the Lamido’s Palace in Ngaoundéré. I have seen the fantasia a few times since it is done for each Fete du Mouton and Fete du Ramadan but it was the first time for some of the newer Peace Corps volunteers. It was a wonderful day especially watching the Chief of Beka-Hosséré and many of my friends from village come marching out to meet the Lamido for the end of the fantasia. Little did I know that my Chief is the little brother of the Lamido (sometimes it takes 2 years to find out what Cameroonians think is obvious). A few of us even got interviewed for the Cameroonian (CRTV) news.
CRTV interview
Fantasia
 Beka-Hosséré Chief and villagers going to meet the Lamido 

A great last fete for me in Cameroon and now there is less than 7 weeks until I say farewell to Beka-Hosséré. I really hope I will return again someday and see Dada in high school and not married before age 16. Already I have seen changes especially in Zakiatoo who should be married by now with the cultural tradition of being married by 16 or 18 but instead she has a job in the city and tells me she wants to marry for love.
How many people can you fit on a motorcycle? 3 guys, 2 girls and a baby on the front

Saturday, September 3, 2016

Appreciating The Differences & Excited to Go Home

After almost 2 years in Cameroon, I now know when I will be leaving and when I will be home. We had our “Close of Service” conference in Kribi (southern Cameroon). It was wonderful to see the people that I arrived to Cameroon with only 2 years ago. We walked along the beach, ate amazing shrimp, and recollected our many amazing adventures in this country. Peace Corps administration gave us some advice on job searching and reintegration in the US. As soon as we found out our dates of departure, we were booking flights and making plans. My plan is to fly out middle of November and then go to France/Switzerland for a visit before arriving back on NY soil end of November. For more specific dates, message me or go to my FB page.

Visiting soy fields
The soy project is still going and we have finally visited the last participant’s field of soy. As the rainy season reaches its peak, I am glad that I do not have to take any more motorcycle rides out onto the muddy paths to the farms or go 3 hours to another village in the pouring rain. Although I do not like the travel, the participants make it worthwhile with their hard work and smiles when we see their healthy soy. Our latest adventures were so crazy that after driving out to the farmer’s field, I decided to walk back because it seemed safer than riding on the motorcycle. Gosh did I have blisters. Nothing that a cup of hot tea and a warm blanket can fix when I got home. Some participants even gave us cous cous when we visited although I was a bit afraid that my stomach was not going to hold the food in during our 3 hour ride home. But alas, we have seen all the fields and now we are just waiting for the harvest. I am hopeful that the participants will harvest before I leave so we can have a small party and give them their certificates.
Trying to load a tractor tire onto a truck after visiting a soy field

I recently started putting together the videos I have taken in Cameroon so that when I return home, you can all watch a “movie” to show you what life looks like here. The videos can show you the landscape, the homes, the food, and the people but it does not always show you the culture. Below I will write a list of what you might call strange, what makes my life sometimes difficult here, and those cultural differences that you cannot see on video. The Wild Life.
Most people have latrines (holes in the ground) here, whether in or outside their homes, at the bars, or in a wooden shed. If it is outside their home, there is usually a short wall of tied together straw to shield you from any onlookers but it’s usually not thick. I have gotten very used to not caring who sees me go to the bathroom. It is normal for women and men to just be going to the bathroom on the side of the road when a bus stops. People use water in plastic tea kettles to wash themselves after going to the bathroom. (That is why you do not shake, eat, or give money with your right hand). Yesterday I used a latrine that had a lot of honeybees flying around it. Imagine pulling down your skirt and hoping the bees do not go close to your butt or fly into your underwear when you pull it up. Always carry around tissues just in case you eat something you shouldn’t eat and the water in the kettle will not be enough. It’s like camping really.
Aiya cooking cous cous over the fire in the hut outside their home

Mostly everyone eats with their hands since cous cous can be easily picked up, molded, and squished in the usual sauce before trying to put it in your mouth without it drippling down your chin. We always wash our hands in water before and after eating. A family will sit around a dish of cous cous and eat out of the same plate (girls eat separately from the guys). And if you buy grilled fish at the bar, it is normal to eat that with your hands too (very easy to pick out the bones, unless you want to eat those too). I use a camping stove hooked to a gas tank to cook my food but everyone else cooks over fires. Bundles of sticks and fire wood are sold on the side of the road.
Family eating cous cous
Ever wonder where all the unwanted stuff goes? The sewing machines here are the same ones that my Grandmother exhibits and explains at our county fair museum. You will find all kinds of things here from earlier years in America, especially cars (all standard, no automatics).
Sewing machines used in Cameroon
As much as running water, internet, and other technology has not reached many of the villages of Cameroon, cellphones are a norm. But mostly there are tracfones or small smart phones. There are kiosks in the city that sell calling/texting credit for phones. But once someone has my phone number, they will call a couple times a week just to say hi and ask about my family. It takes a while for Americans to get used to someone calling just to check in and not for a specific reason. Although if I do not answer my phone, a Cameroonian will call over 10 times, not leaving a message, just calling over and over again to see if I will pick up. If you do want to talk to someone, just tell them you do have calling credit, works every time. The richer people in the city will have over 2 or 3 phones because there are many networks here (Orange, MTN, Camtel). They will sit down to a meeting and place their 3 phones next to each other on the table.
Kiosk where you can buy Orange phone credit

As I have said before, transportation is not fun here. But for motorcycles, women are supposed to always sit in front of the man. Also women are not supposed to sit in the front seat of a taxi. And buses do not leave at a specific time; they leave when the bus is full or over filled with people. Also anything, anything can be transported on a motorcycle or taxi.
Path we used to motorcycle to a farmer's field

Loading a bus (very close to power lines)

FCFA or francs are used in Cameroon and usually the bank only gives 5000 or 10000 bills. That is a problem because no one wants to give away their small money. People are always guarding their 500 pieces (close to $1) and give you a sour look if you ask them to change even a 2000 bill. Unlike banks in the US, banks here will not give businesses small change every day (like what I used to do when I worked at a bank). Also if a bill is torn, people will not take it and I am not sure if the bank will exchange it. Peace Corps volunteers will hoard small bills and coins so much that when they return to the US, they wonder why they have so much US change all the time. Watch out, I might do that when I return.
Bargaining prices is a normal way of buying goods here. And they always try to raise the price for a white person. Not fair. But I have gotten very good at walking away when they don’t lower the price. Sometimes they will come running after me to sell at the more appropriate price. You have to be ready to leave the market without the item if it is not the right price.
Typical view of an Adamawa village during rainy season

The treatment of animals really bothers me here. There is no respect for them at all. My cat Annie was the only animal here that I saw was loved by my neighbors but she really had to work at it. A Cameroonian told me once that he had read in the news that someone in France had been arrested for killing all his cats. He was so confused at why that happened- “he can do whatever he wants to his animals, right?” I always tell Cameroonians that I cannot wait to go home and hug my animals. They give me a strange look and I say “well I will give my parents a hug too”.
In some regions in Cameroon, women can wear anything especially places with Christian religion but in the Adamawa where there are mostly Muslims and conservative tribes, women must cover up. No showing too much of the arms, cover most of the shoulders, and wear skirts past the knees. I will feel so naked when I go back to the US.
Sometimes this place reminds me of old small town America or Desperate Housewives community where everyone knows when a newcomer arrives in town, they know all the village news and I am the last to find out, the women are nice to each other even when they don’t like each other, most wives do not leave the home, the girls are the only ones that work at home while the boys play, and best of all if I need to tell someone something I just send a child to find them in the village; everyone knows each other.
Guiya and Dada playing soccer in front of my house. These are the moments I will miss the most.
These are all cultural differences but we have them in the US too. As a foreigner, as much as I try to fit in here and eat cous cous, and wear the clothes, I will always stick out. The most difficult part of this culture is that no one is used to foreigners. I will always be stared at, stared down for being a woman, and selected to sit in the front because of the white man perceived power. This cultural difference is the one that I wish to change. A Cameroonian friend took me to the market and I told him I was sorry if he was given higher prices or stared at because I was walking him. He said “Don’t people stare at black people in the US?” I said if people do, it is not normal and for the most part the only time people stare is when someone is really beautiful, like when I go out dancing and I want the guys to stare at me. He laughed but I think he understood. But even though I want to change some things about Cameroon, there is something I heard tonight that I really appreciate. As I heard the call to prayer at the Mosque, I also could hear the music from a Christian church service being held outside by the primary school, only a short distance from the mosque. Even if Cameroon will always see the differences of color, it is amazing that differences of religion are seen as normal here.

The next two months are my preparation to leave. There is now another education volunteer in Beka-Hosséré. She has just started her service so she still has another two years left in Cameroon but I am very positive that she will do an amazing job even after I leave. Although I am excited to go home, I am nervous about going to back to what should be familiar ground. For me, Cameroon is now the norm. I have gotten used to the bartering for goods/transportation and being around the same people every day. But I am going to try to do my best to appreciate my time left in Cameroon by hanging with my neighbors, celebrating with the community during the upcoming Fete du Mouton, and not taking for granted the cultural norms that I have learned here. My neighbors keep feeding me cous cous, maybe hoping I will stay. By the time I am home, I will have gained a few pounds of cous cous belly haha I am not sure yet what I will do when I get home but if anyone has any job ideas (fairs, agriculture, management), let me know! Cameroon has been a great adventure, sometimes reminding me too much of the Indiana Jones movies, but now I am preparing for a new journey; I am excited to keep dreaming my wishes and living my dreams.